Josh, I wish I had read this 20 years ago. I knew calm, composed clarity was the way but too often, it seemed easier to negotiate, let things slide. Make alternative plans. Not enforce consequences. I did a complete disservice to my household.
As I have been reading your work and trying to apply standards to the my life (aside from fitness—no offense I had them there before i started reading your work), it really is much easier to go back to default mode.
However, I did follow your advice on a business deal. Client wanted to renegotiate fee agreement after I already made an accommodation. Emails went back and forth and when they realized they were not going to be able to renegotiate, they demanded a phone call. I replied that I am happy to have a phone call to discuss case goals, etc but not the client agreement we had agreed to. They need to sign it as is and make payment.
I received a signed client agreement and payment within 6 hours of sending that email.
That's great, Craig. My former high school principal, who also became my boss for a few years, would say, "Unclear is unkind."
And it makes sense. Uncertainty and lack of clarity are unfair to the people we live with or work with, and they certainly aren't fair to ourselves, as we end up doing a disservice to ourselves.
Being weak doesn't make a person noble. Having strength and knowing when and how to use it does
That reads like a solid Note.
Josh, I wish I had read this 20 years ago. I knew calm, composed clarity was the way but too often, it seemed easier to negotiate, let things slide. Make alternative plans. Not enforce consequences. I did a complete disservice to my household.
As I have been reading your work and trying to apply standards to the my life (aside from fitness—no offense I had them there before i started reading your work), it really is much easier to go back to default mode.
However, I did follow your advice on a business deal. Client wanted to renegotiate fee agreement after I already made an accommodation. Emails went back and forth and when they realized they were not going to be able to renegotiate, they demanded a phone call. I replied that I am happy to have a phone call to discuss case goals, etc but not the client agreement we had agreed to. They need to sign it as is and make payment.
I received a signed client agreement and payment within 6 hours of sending that email.
That's great, Craig. My former high school principal, who also became my boss for a few years, would say, "Unclear is unkind."
And it makes sense. Uncertainty and lack of clarity are unfair to the people we live with or work with, and they certainly aren't fair to ourselves, as we end up doing a disservice to ourselves.
Glad the situation worked out for you!